The New You – The Sustainable Way Part 3
Defining Your Goal
In Part 2 of this blog series, we looked at 8 areas in your life using the Wheel of Life. As part of the process, you graded yourself in each area of your life from 1 to 10 and you chose the objective, or goal, to focus on. Most of the time, the wheel confirms the areas in your life that you were already aware of. However, sometimes the wheel uncovers areas within your life which you thought were sorted but in truth they are not as sorted as you would like. It’s important here to remember that the Wheel of Life is just a way of identifying topics in your life which you can address. If you don’t want to tackle the area in your life where you scored lowest, you don’t have to. You decide the topics in your life which you want to transform.
In my last post, I talked about how my Wheel of Life uncovered that fun and recreation was an area of concern. It came out significantly lower than all the other areas. I realised in that moment that this was an area I wanted to see change in so I defined a goal to bring more fun into my life. I defined the goal as follows:
To be proactive and to plan three fun activities into my week from January 6th so that I do my best to be healthy in my body, mind, and spirit everyday.
The goal is specific and positive. It’s vitally important that when we’re creating our life goals that we make then both specific and positive. This means they need to be SMART and they need to bring you a sense of excitement and enthusiasm. SMART stands for:
SMART goals are therefore:
* Well-defined (S)
* Have clear objectives (M)
* Are possible and have been thought-through (A)
* Have taken into consideration (a) what positives have been achieved so far and (b) what may prevent them from happening (R)
* Have a timeframe, including a start date and an evaluation or end date (T)
I find that defining the goal using SMART, really helps make sure that the approach I take is balanced and fulfilling.
If you would like help defining your goal, here are some questions to help you:
1. If you could only succeed in achieving your goal, what would the ideal scenario and outcome?
2. What changes would you like immediately? What’s your next small step?
3. How will you know when you’ve achieved your goal? What will you see/hear/feel?
It’s also important that we keep our language positive. Too often I find myself defining my goals on what I don’t want to happen in my life. For example, I don’t want to put on any more weight or I don’t want such a bad relationship with this person or I don’t want to be this unfit. If we start our goals off here, they do not bring a sense of encouragement and empowerment. As a result, we feel deflated before we’ve even started! Instead, it is better for us to use positive language. It’s ‘I will’ rather ‘I will not’.
In the part 4, we will continue to look at our strengths and weaknesses around our goal. This is all about ensuring that we achieve our goal, evaluating our progress, and remaining positive. Until then, all the best with defining your goal and making those immediate steps you’ve chosen!