The New You – The Sutainable Way Part 2
Following on from Part 1 of this blog, you’re now totally sold with the concept of being a proactive person, grabbing hold of your responsibility for you with both hands, and choosing to be responsive rather than be reactive… I think it’s fair to say that these three things are easier said than done but practice does make perfect.
What now? At this time of year. Well, in fact at any time of year. The main problem I find is that I want to change lot and lots of things. It starts off with one but by the time I follow that train of thought to the end, I have at least five action points. Then I feel overwhelmed and I often don’t get anywhere near completing even one of the tasks! Deflating.
This year is different though. Why? It’s because I’m not going to overload myself. I’m going to choose one or two things to change at a time. In many ways, this approach is the practice of part 1 – being responsive rather than being reactive. When we first think about how we want to transform, that is an impulse from our internal proactive person. However, often when we open this door, our internal saboteur joins the party and the next thing we know, we’ve got a list of changes longer than our arms put together. Therefore, the things we must first acknowledge this year is that we are only human and that we can only transform our behaviours one at a time. If we choose to take it all on at once, we risk not achieving anything.
How do we choose what we need to transform first? There’s not an easy answer but I do think looking at eight categories in our lives is a good way to start. Last year I started a coaching and mentoring course, and was recommended a book called Co-Active Coaching. It’s funny. I read this after having gone through 7HHEP and was amazed by the cross-over between the key principles in the two books – it really depended on my understanding of the 7HHEP. The principles outlined in Co-active Coaching have been developed from some of the pioneers who first developed the concept of professional coaching and they have developed a simple but effective tool called the Wheel of Life.
The Wheel of Life is easier to explain if you can visualise it:
Wheel of Life Explanation
To complete your wheel of life, think about how satisfied you are in each of the eight areas of your life: Physical environment, career, family and friends, significant other/romance, fun and recreation, health, money, and personal growth.
If you score yourself at 10 in that area, it means you are very satisfied. If you score yourself a 1, it means your very dissatisfied in this area of your life. Shade in the wheel and draw an inner wheel around the area you’ve shaded.
Once completed ask yourself these questions:
- If the inner wheel was a tyre on a car, how bumpy would the ride be?’
- Are you surprised about what areas of your life you scored highest in?
- Are you surprised about the areas of your life you scored lowest in?
- What are the causes for your dissatisfaction in these areas?
If a particular area has come out lower than the others, I would recommend tackling this area first. Remember, even if you can think about multiple ways you could personally transform this area of your life – don’t try to do all of them. Instead, write them down and choose one or two to carry through as your action points.
Recently, when I completed my Wheel of Life, I realised that I was most dissatisfied with fun and recreation. However, when I looked at my action points, none of them did anything about bumping up the amount of fun for 2017. This is mainly because I simply don’t make enough time in my week to make this a priority. Therefore, this year I’m making room in my schedule for fun and recreation by planning it into my week. My plan is to have fun and do something I find recreational three times a week. Simple. I can measure this easily, it’s something I actually want to do and, by doing this, I will feel more empowered to take on those other areas of transformation that I select throughout the rest of the year.
I hope this tool has been helpful. Thank you to the CTI for developing the Wheel of Life. In Part 3 of this series, we’ll start to look at you and your target/s in more detail. More specifically, we’re going to look at your strengths and weaknesses in this area and get real about what challenges you’re going to face to transform your life. Until then, have a great week!